Five Building Materials for a Healthy Household

There is nothing more rewarding than building a strong household.  Having my wife and kids around me for the holidays has been great this year. For the first time I’ve been able to spend a lot of time with them WITHOUT feeling a nagging sense of guilt for not working or unfinished business.

A household is a place to lay our heads, to feel safe, to feel warm and protected. Building a household is a fundamental human drive.  Building a good household I think is one of the primary responsibilities of parenting.  Whether that place is large or small, beautiful or ugly, a place to call home is needed and wanted by almost everyone.

Knowing how to build a healthy household does not necessarily come natural to most of us, especially men.  I am constantly learning from men who have done it well, from scripture and from experience at home. I have learned that anyone can build a healthy household with the following five essential building materials.  

  1. Concrete Footers” of lovehusbands love your wife and do not be harsh with them.  I think that God knew that a common struggle for men would be with harshness toward his family.  For the man able to overcome this struggle and love his family with Gods help, a fruitful family life will emerge.
  2. “Walls” of faith in God – walls protect a household from the elements, from thieves that would steal. Faith in God provides the protection needed to thrive and to survive.  The truth is our very lives depend on God and his protection because of the fact that there is evil, loss and death in this world.  Access to God and his blessings is by faith, it’s just how things are right now.
  3. The “Roof” of financial management – if we can’t or wont manage well the finances of the home, be it a large or small home, a large or small income, we simply can not live where we want to live.
  4. The “Heating System” of slow to anger  – James 1:20 says “the anger of man does not bring about the righteousness of God”.  Slowness to anger and “soft answers which turn away wrath” are essential, we simply can not do family without them.  Anger brings a destructive chill which unsettles the home, the family and it leads to many other destructive forces.
  5. The “Plumbing System” of forgiveness – daily forgiveness removes the waste of resentment, the waste’s of wrath and retaliation that don’t belong at home.   Without the removal of these toxins the household will become a septic system of resentment, anger and hate and will eventually break apart.
Cottage At Dornie

Cottage At Dornie

Buildings are made with concrete, wood, shingles, furnaces and pipes but healthy households are built with love, faith in God, financial sanity, slowness to anger and forgiveness.

Are there any building elements missing from your household?

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Lets Build An Ice Man!

We’ve all heard of snow men built with packing snow, a top had, a carrot for a nose and rocks for eyes and mouth but what about an … Ice Man?

 

This winter we’ve not had a lot of snow but we have had a lot of cold.  And all these weeks of sub-freezing temperatures has turned our pond into thick field of slippery fun.  Our kids have been cooped up inside all winter, some days it has been so cold they even canceled or delayed school.  For example right now it is -15F outside.

 

Needless to say we have needed to get out of the house.  Today it was above freezing so we decided to head outside and play on the pond.  A little ice skating, hockey, snow balls and sled riding helps to get the blood moving again. My kids love to go on adventures and one of my daughters likes to create things.  All that ice sitting out there surely there must be something we can do with blocks of ice.  So I busted out my chainsaw and started cutting.

 

To my surprise it was 7″ thick, (I’ve not seen ice thicker than 4″ since we’ve lived here).

 

I harvest several blocks of ice from the pond and I tried to think of something useful to do with them.  It turns out that building a snowman was the best idea we could come up with.

IceMan1

 

The nice thing about an ice man is you can craft the size of the blocks with the chainsaw, the most difficult thing about this is getting the ice out of the pond after it has been cut.  I would shove the ice down then it would pop back up out of the same hole.  It helps to have pry bar to wedge the ice out of the hole.  Once we got the ice out we would place it on a sled and drag it up into the yard.

 

To build the ice man we stack from largest to smallest.  We used a snow ball and a little water to hold a stick on the side of the ice to make arms, we poured water over the blocks to clean off the snow and dirt.  We placed a hat on the top block to make the head, this children’s hat had a full face knit into it. We placed mittens on the stick arms to complete the man.

 

The water pour acted as cement as it re-froze between the blocks locking them together.

 

Getting out with the kids on an adventure like this was a lot of fun and helped us to get out of the house on another sun-less winter day.

 

if you want to try this yourself here is the low-down.

 

Supplies: Ice Saw or Chainsaw and a frozen pond or frozen pool, 4″ or thicker.  DANCER: ice less than 4″ thick is not safe to walk on.

 

Process:

  1. Cut ice in square or rectangle or round if possible using whatever means necessary, I used a chainsaw.
  2. Make 3 ice blocks that are progressively smaller. I recommend the base to be ~12″x14″, the middle to be ~8″x8″ and the head to be ~5″x5″, all ice should be a minimum of 4″ thick, unless you have a safe way to make ice blocks that are 1″ to 4″ thick.  You can also knock off the corners of the blocks with a chisel to make them appear to be round.  Otherwise your ice man will be shaped like spongebob squarepants… like ours is. Be careful to preserve the flat surfaces so the blocks will easily stack.
  3. Pry ice out of pond and place on a sled.
  4. Relocate ice to a flat place somewhere in the yard.
  5. Stack the ice from largest to smallest, use water to clean the surface if necessary, use snow and water to “cement” the blocks together.
  6. Form a snowball with water (if necessary) and poke a stick into the snowball, then carefully stick the snowball with stick on the side of the middle block to make the 2 arms.
  7. To make a face you could paint on the ice surface or just use a hat that has a face knit into it like we did.

 

This is a fun way to go on a winter adventure with the kids, plus its a reason to fire up the chainsaw. The most difficult part of this for me was getting the kids out of the warm house, enjoy.

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