If a Christian needs to force people into a mold, before they can accept them as friends. If they must be on board with a strange list of criteria, which can be a list of preferences by someone they admire. A certain clergyman, of family of pastors or leaders.
This is not an attitude from God. On the contrary it is quite godless.
The only valid group or family to test people by is Jesus Christ himself. If someone else fills that role for us we have been taken by powerful personalities and we essentially are brain washed.
“I follow Paul, I follow Apollo’s” or I follow Calvin, I follow Pentecostals. Or I follow this family of pastors. Is an immature and unchristian way to think and treat others.
We should let our mind be cleaned up by the Lord. Only Jesus Christ links us to or separates a Christian from other people.
If someone else does this for us then we are in a really bad spot. Which won’t serve us well, it won’t hold up long term.
We need only Jesus to define people for us.