This helped me tremendously.

“Jesus answered and said unto them, destroy this temple, and in three days I will raise it up.” – John‬ ‭2:19‬ ‭

The people who ‘destroyed’ the body of Jesus turned out to actually be working for the purpose of God through Jesus.

The people who destroyed the temple, Jerusalem and persecuted the Christians in 70AD were working for Jesus. Read more about this here. Driving the Christians out worked to fulfill his command to go into all the world.

“Jesus came out from the temple and was going away when His disciples came up to point out the temple buildings to Him. And He said to them, ‘Do you not see all these things? Truly I say to you, not one stone here will be left upon another, which will not be torn down.’” – Matthew‬ ‭24:1-2‬ ‭NASB‬‬

There are many other examples in scripture of God using destruction and devastation through people.

Often the destructive people and things in our lives are likely working for Jesus (whether they know it or not), their motives may be other, as we keep him central and supreme he can use destruction to build new and better in us. Yes, he destroys but he is also building something far better.