You Really Expect Me To Behave… LIKE THAT?

How We Behave vs. How We Pretend to Behave

(The content of this post comes mostly from first-hand observations in companies and churches and the teachings of Patrick Lencioni. Leaders communicate how they want followers to behave subconsciously.

Written organizational values are a dime a dozen. Many ignore these values as touchy-feely HR talk, because they observe leadership ignore said values with their behavior.

 

I notice there really are two different value systems in most organizations.  There are the written values or vision statements that all are to aspire to but there are also behavioral values.

 

Behavioral values determine what is acceptable behavior within an organization. Behavioral values are established by two things. One, how leadership behaves; and two, how the employees who are heavily promoted or rewarded behave.

 

Don’t get me wrong, heavily promoted employees often deserve their promotions, they perform well, they fit in the culture well. They may be very loyal to leadership, they may navigate the politics well and they may be very productive.

 

But what leaders sometimes ignore is the other behaviors that they promote when they promote certain people. I could give many examples and it seems for every business example I have an equal church example. I’ve seen similar trends in a variety of types of organizations. So I think that these challenges are common to all hierarchical organizations.

“Behave Like This Guy”

When a leader awards or promotes a high performer they are also inadvertently promoting and encouraging their behavior. Their other behaviors, which may be hidden from the leader, can result in a toxic work culture over time. High performers sometimes don’t work well with others, high performers are sometimes very competitive. They may be liars, they may be hypocritical and hostile to the company goals overall while meeting their personal career objectives.

Most heavily promoted employees directly or indirectly generate revenue for a company but treat their colleagues poorly. They may steal ideas and use their influence for personal advantage at the expense of lower employees. I’ve thought to myself more than once after seeing a promotion or award given to certain (not all) colleagues:

“You really expect me to behave…. like that?”

 

I believe that the behavioral values of a leader and their ‘promotees’ have more of an influence on a culture than any other single thing. The truth is, most leaders I have encountered do not care to try to manage culture. They think it is a nebulous result of things they have little control over. I am convinced that this is a failure in leadership. It is a business mistake that has a direct impact on financial performance.

 

Leaders who say one thing and promote another cause resentment and cause a company’s culture to decay. What an organization needs is clarity at the top, clarity of vision, clarity of behavioral norms.

 

What is needed is strong ownership of a company’s culture at the very top. Organizational values should be formulated, communicated and enforced by senior leaders. Don’t delegate this to HR or lower layers of managers, if so, it will be a culture in perpetual flux. Over time the worst behavior will dominate and become reinforced. Sort of like a survival of the fittest (or fiercest) culture.

Delegation of behavioral values to HR is a bad idea because employees look to leadership for behavior guidance, not HR. Behavior determines culture which has a huge impact on financial performance long-term. Trying to manage financial performance while ignoring culture is a mistake.

The following three culture principles, if embraced by its leaders, can begin to repair any hierarchy based organization. From high-tech companies, to building contractors, to even hierarchy-based churches.

  1. Communicate and reward people for the behavior you want, not those you feel morally obligated to broadcast.
  2. Do not delegate communication of behavior values to lower managers or to HR, own it and back it up financially.
  3. MOST IMPORTANTLY: Use extreme caution when promoting and/or awarding people. Understand the message that rewards and promotions send.

If you liked this post you will like this: How Enablers Affect Company Culture

What other ways can leaders repair company culture?

enablers

How Enablers Affect Organizational Culture

Watch Out for the Enablers

Enablers are people who enable or help others to engage in dysfunctional or destructive behavior. Enablers make bad behavior easier and more comfortable to engage in.

‘Enabling’ is a term often used in the context of a relationship with an addict. It might be a drug addict or alcoholic, a gambler, or a compulsive over-eater or even a bi-polar or schizophrenic individual. Enablers, rather than addicts, suffer the effects of the addict’s behavior. Enabling is removing the natural consequences to the addict of his or her behavior.” Psychcentral.com post by Darlene Lancer

Recently someone made it clear to me that she was being an enabler. She essentially protected a person from incarceration with no consequences to their actions.

This prompted me to research enabling from a mental health perspective. I learned that the majority of addicts have at least one enabler in their life. Enablers shield a person from the consequences of their behavior protecting them from the natural consequences.

Antonym of Enabler

In a word the antonym of enabler is a disciplinarian. To prepare those we lead by making artificial consequences which results in changes of behavior.

Good parenting, does the opposite of enabling, a loving parent creates artificial consequences to a child’s bad behavior. Particularly to those actions which are likely to bring future negative consequences in adulthood. Healthy parents provide consequences to prepare children to function in society on their own. This is otherwise known as discipline; of course punishment can be taken too far and can become abusive. But a loving parent provides discipline to a child, it would be unkind for them not to.

Enabling and Organizational Culture?

I find the difference between the behavior of start-up business employees and employees in large corporations fascinating.

  • When an employee is heavily promoted despite behavior that would cause loss of business in an open market. They might be experiencing enabling.
  • When a lazy or unproductive employee is not made to show up and work hard every day. They might be experiencing enabling.
  • When unions save the job of negligent or toxic employees in knee-jerk reactions against management, they might be enablers.

Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard. – Vala Afshar (@ValaAfshar)

Talent is a skill and is recruited in technology corporations typically based on education. But, hard work is a behavioral issue and is subject to personal will-power. Enablers notoriously overlook bad behavior and even can promote it. Teams of highly talented and educated employees can become very ineffective through a culture that enables bad behavior. This type of corporate culture is often created over years of enabling. Enabling is a major mechanism which hinders the work of hundreds of talented employees.

When an entrepreneur pivots her strategy and creates products to serve her market the new sales themselves is the discipline. Unless the government is meddling, there is no enabler present in the market to shield her. She must pivot her strategy… or not eat.

Organizations do no favor to employees or their customers when they enable bad behavior internally. Enabling cripples people emotionally, over the long term it destroys self-esteem and enslaves people emotionally.

The Free Market Typically Has No (or less) Enablers

It has been said that pursuing entrepreneurship is the best personal development activity available. In creating a profitable business there is rarely artificial shields for the entrepreneur. The free market does not care who you are, (or who you’re not). The free market does not pay your bills because you are accustomed to getting handouts. Serving the free-market well requires hustle, it requires good ideas and it requires self-discipline. It is a survival of the fittest environment and it more closely mirrors reality.

Mental health and addiction professionals warn against enabling. Evidence has shown that an addict experiencing the damaging life-consequences of his addiction provides the most incentive to change. Often this is when the addict “hits bottom” – a term commonly referred to in Alcoholics Anonymous.

How to Help Enablers

Wise leaders give their people incentive to change and do not enable based on the arbitrary, it is bad for business and it is bad for people.

It seems to stop enabling a leader must start with the following:

  1. Accept the fact that we may be enabling bad behavior; the most difficult part of changing.
  2. Think what is best for the culture I am leading and pursue that for those we lead.
  3. Display courage to correct people when they need it (or at least don’t promote bad actors). Great people developers are willing to correct, willing to call a person out when they need to change their behavior.

How else can enabling impact culture?

For more on this topic check this out> You Really Expect Me to Behave … Like That?

002 The Science Layer Podcast – Interview with Phil McKinney

Want to learn more about innovation and R&D? well you’ve come to the right place with this episode!

This great interview with Mr. Phil McKinney of Cable Labs and PhilMcKinney.com is a perfect introductory interview for this podcast.  Mr. McKinney did not disappoint with fascinating insight and commentary about the use of science and technology in the private and public sectors.

Phil McKinney is President and CEO of CableLabs. He heads the research and development organization responsible for charting the cable industry’s technology and innovation road map.

Prior to joining CableLabs, Phil was the VP and CTO of the $40 billion (FY12) Personal Systems Group at HP.  He was responsible for long-range strategic planning,  R&D and product road maps for the company’s PC product lines, including mobile devices, notebooks, desktops and workstations. In addition, McKinney was founder and leader of HP’s Innovation Program Office (IPO). The IPO was chartered to identify, incubate and launch adjacent and fundamentally new technologies, products and services that would become the future growth engines for HP.

 

Interview Notes:

Phil shares how he began podcasting with his Killer Innovations podcast even before iTunes and it was primarily as an outgrowth of his blog and in response to people seeking him for advice in how to lead innovative teams to come up with great ideas that turn into profitable products.

Phil is excited about the future of display technologies and the new enabling technology that next generation displays are enabling.  Check out Corning Inc.’s A Day Made of Glass video here or part 2 here

Phil suggested that it might be a good idea to be in the top quartile of your competitors in R&D spending.

Phil pointed out the healthy role between government and science. President Kennedy set the vision to travel to the moon yet he let it to the scientists and engineers to actually get there. Kennedy did not attempt to pick the technological winners and steer funds to any one technology.  Kennedy only set the vision (BHAG, Big Hairy Audacious Goal) and made the way for resources, he did not attempt to guide the scientists and engineers in the technology or strategy of how they successfully made it to the moon.  See Kennedy’s speech here to Congress from 1962 challenging the nation to strive for the moon.

Check out Phil McKinney’s website here.

Check out Phil’s Killer Innovations Podcast site here. Or search for Killer Innovations in iTunes, Stitcher or wherever you listen to podcasts.

Purchase Phil’s Beyond the Obvious Book Here (affiliate link)
Beyond The Obvious Book

The opinions expressed in this podcast are not necessarily those of my employer or the employer of my interviewees.

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