There is spiritual love found through Jesus Christ. It’s him loving through us.
But there is also an emotional love.
The first is found in, through, and by Jesus Christ living within, its not offended at conflict, it loves truth and it soberly embraces reality.
The latter is emotional, it has ulterior and subversive motives of apprehending, controlling, and manipulating weaker people, in order to fit them into the stronger persons vision or will about love, fellowship and about Christian gatherings.
Top priority of any Christian who gathers with others is to be able to understand how people are loving them. Protect themselves from the non-spiritual types of V love. And then develop themselves, the ability to love others in a spiritual and not an emotional way.